Couples need to discuss practical things like dividing up chores to avoid resentment later.
Division of chores is probably something you need to talk about with your partner if you plan on living together. One woman was shocked when her husband wouldn't reheat his own meal... A meal that she cooked for him! In fact, she wondered if she was in the wrong! The mom-of-two took to the AITA section of Reddit and shared how she and her husband got into a fight about it. She questioned if she was an a**hole for "getting mad at my husband because he laughed when I told him to reheat his own dinner?"
She explained that she does not go out to work and takes care of her two kids (three years old and six months old) full-time. Her husband works as an ambulance driver and comes home at odd times and expects food upon his arrival. The exhausted mom might not always be available at that time. So, she started "pre-making meals so that dinner or lunch can be ready when he's home, all he's gotta do is just reheat it. I immediately got to it and went grocery shopping and spent an entire 2 days making meals and storing them in the fridge. His response to this idea is 'whatever'. I was sort of relieved cause now I could sleep properly, the kids care won't get interrupted etc."
Things took a turn when he came home at 11 pm, "while I'm sleeping after putting the baby to sleep. I wake up to him shouting for me from the livingroom. I rush out and ask what was happening and he tells me he's hungry and wants dinner. I tell him it's in the fridge and just needs to be reheated and he didn't have to wake me up for it. He tells me I need to go reheat it for him. I say no, not happening and he needs to reheat his own dinner. He starts laughing sarcastically which got me mad. He then tells me I'm ridiculous to assume that after working no stop for an entire shift that he should be 'expected' to do a chore aka reheat dinner himself, when I'm here and I can do it. I start arguing with him after he complains I'm not doing enough and refuse to reheat it then I go back inside the bedroom and shut the door. He comes an hour later yelling about how I've basically made him almost pass out from hunger just cause I'm petty trying to prove a point, I tell him he's being unreasonable to expect me to reheat his dinner when he could do it himself. He gives me a nasty look then tells me he's going to bed hungry and I'm responsible for this then heads out. This morning he silently gets dressed and leaves while turning his phone off."
Granted that his job must be stressful and taxing, but taking care of children is not so easy either, right? And a grown man not able to do something as simple as reheat food? His wife even cooked the meals and all he had to do was reheat it... What's so hard? Reddit users quickly responded to the woman's post, most of them absolutely horrified. One Reddit user pointed out: OP, don’t forget that you are working as well. Getting to come home and not have to do anything except put your pre-prepared, home-cooked meal in the microwave is a seriously good deal. If doesn’t like it, he can be a single man who works and then keeps his own house. Be careful though, because the whole thing sounds like it’s more about controlling you and keeping you in your place than it is about food or chores. Many agreed that it was completely unfair for the man to put the onus on his wife to get things done. Dividing up housework is a necessity and the couple should make things clear regarding where both people need to be involved equally.