The bride does not want to go through with it but her husband and in-laws are upset.
Following traditions may seem tricky. Sometimes traditions should be honored to show respect to a family's beliefs but what about traditions that are better off in the past as they make people uncomfortable? One bride was caught in a dilemma when she didn't want to go through with her husband's family's strange wedding custom... They wanted to cut the bride out of her wedding dress! Explaining the weird ritual, the bride went to the AITA (Am I The A**hole) subReddit for perspective.
The OP wrote: My fiancé’s family have a tradition where on the wedding night the groom cuts the bride out of her dress. They even have a special knife they use to do it and the next day everybody makes a big deal about the cut-up dress. I told my fiancé I don’t want to do it but he said he wants to and that it’s the only tradition he isn’t willing to budge on. There are other traditions he’s agreed to scrap, but he said this one is harmless and it’s important to him that we keep some of their traditions. He and his family are upset with me since they feel like I’m erasing so many of their important traditions and since my fiancé really wants to keep this one, they feel like I should compromise. AITA?
Reddit users were curious about the custom and one of them asked the OP to explain what other of her fiancé’s family traditions she had forbidden to go along with. She added the following: “The men dragging the bride and groom to their room once the wedding is over and offering encouragements from outside, being woken up early the next day by the women in the family so they can ‘help you get ready' (It’s just an excuse to see if they can find any evidence that you actually had sex and then go and gossip about it with everyone else during brunch), the groom having to ‘buy back’ his bride.”
After that, most Reddit users were in agreement that the OP was not the a**hole. One person commented strongly saying, “Nta. That’s the dumbest sh*t I’ve heard today. He wants to ruin an expensive dress and his whole family is pressing the issue? Fu*k no. If he’s dead set on it, buy a thrift store gown for him to cut up. Edit to add. How the fu*k did this tradition get started? What poor woman had to be surprised on her wedding night by her groom coming at her with a knife? And why have the other women gone along with it? That’s some power trip bs. Huge no from me.” Another added: This does feel very weird, ritualistic, wasteful, and it is just very odd and concerning that OP’s fiance AND his family are so dismissive of OP’s feelings about being cut out of her own wedding gown. The fact that he has involving his family in this disagreement and they are all trying to pressure OP is just a sign of what’s to come in that marriage…..