Teen Refuses To Visit Disabled Sister In Hospital: "She's Just A Human Body With Nothing Inside"

Teen Refuses To Visit Disabled Sister In Hospital: "She's Just A Human Body With Nothing Inside"

This 15-year-old was forced to take care of her special needs sister, robbing her of her teenagedom. Reddit users came to her rescue, comforting her.

Taking to forum website Reddit.com, a 15-year-old user explained a certain predicament she was in regarding her special needs stepsister. After her biological mother had passed away, her father remarried. Soon, her family welcomed a new woman into the household along with her disabled daughter from a previous marriage. Now, the teen has been tasked with taking care of her stepsister. From feeding her and wiping her drool to making special visits to the hospital, user Mystepsisterisspecia shared her story on the subreddit Am I the Assh*le, a forum dedicated to deciding whether users were ethically or morally in the wrong depending on their circumstances.

The troubled teen wrote: I’m 15 years old. I have a stepsister who is a couple [of] years older than me and she is really seriously disabled. I’m not sure what’s wrong with her because no one ever wants to discuss it with me but she’s nonverbal, breaks her bones a lot, has severe epilepsy, and will have many fitting episodes. She also doesn’t understand stuff. That’s probably the easiest way to put it. She’s just a human body with nothing inside. She’s my stepmom's daughter. My stepmom married my dad three years ago and they dated only for a year before that. I don’t know my stepmom very well and I don’t really get on with her. We are respectful to each other but I’m basically living with strangers because she’s so busy with her daughter and my dad. I am always on my own and I used to hate it but I’m used to it now.

While this sounds like just a teenager who is whining a lot, she also shared her deeply personal experience of losing her mom. Mystepsisterisspecia continued: Ever since they moved in to live with us, life changed drastically for me because all the care now revolves around my stepsister. That’s fine, I get it, but both my stepmom and my dad ask me to do things for my stepsister that I don’t want to do and I resent doing. Stuff like staying home when I want to go to the mall with my friends; they’re disappointed that I don’t get her anything for her birthday with my very limited funds... My own mom passed away when I was small so I can’t go and stay anywhere else and all in all I’m just a lot more angry than I used to be because they seem really disappointed whenever I say I don’t want to do anything for her. Even stuff like feeding her - like I don’t want to sit there feeding her banana pudding and wiping her drool. I didn’t ask for this.


She then explained what the exact issue was and how all her experiences thus far culminated into her current issue. She stated: [My sister] recently fell a few days ago and had a seizure for eight minutes. She was taken to hospital and the doctors want to keep her in and look after her. I don’t want to go and visit her. I remember seeing my mom in hospital before she died and I just hate hospitals and I sort of hate my stepsister and I just don’t want to go and visit someone who doesn’t even know I’m there. My stepmom is really upset with me and so is my dad. They haven’t yelled at me or anything but they are both being super cold towards me because I don’t want to visit. My grandma who lives in Canada called me up out the blue and told me it was okay and I don’t need to force myself to go to the hospital so I’m assuming my dad has told her I’m refusing to go. He keeps pleading with me but I keep telling him I’m not doing it. I told him hospitals remind me of mom and he got even more upset and said my stepsister might die and I need to stop being so selfish towards my stepmom.


The user finally asked for advice and opinions on what to do moving forward. Many other Reddit users acknowledged that she, in fact, was not being a whiny or ungrateful teenager, but that she was merely thrown into a situation that makes it hard for her to enjoy the same experiences that other children her age are supposed to. Vlsewell, for example, responded: You sound like an average teenager who has had a lot of life experiences early on. If going to the hospital upsets you, don't go. And don't be afraid to tell your dad what you need, which is his undivided attention for a minute! If you're in school, talk to a counselor or teacher, or ask to be referred to therapy. You have a real asset in your grandma. Call her and talk with her often. She may be a good way to get through to your dad. Hang in there. I'm sorry life is tough right now. We really do hope Mystepsisterisspecia does hang in there and, at least in some small ways, gets to enjoy her time as a teen.

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